Who wants to marry an omnivore? or "Vegansexual?!?"

Hey All,

For the last time in 2007, this is P_M here to give my point of view on the whole "vegansexual" thing. For those who you who either don't know, or can't guess vegansexual is a term coined to represent vegans who only sleep with other vegans. Before I continue I should mention that it is a preference and therefore individual ( I don't speak for every vegan living or dead so don't think that anything i say holds true for all of us).

now that the disclaimer is out there, I will say that while I would not have sex with an omnivore. I will never refer to myself as "vegansexual" because I think the term is insipid and unneeded. there is no term for people who don't kiss smokers , or for Christians who don't date outside of their religion, so why should there be one for vegans who would rather not have physical relationships with omnivores.

At present, my dating policy is that I'll go out on a first date with anyone I find worthy, omnivore, vegan, vegetarian, republican, whatever. if the person is vegan then the relationship will progress normally, and if it's meant to be ( it's an old saying go with it) there will be wedding bells and little vegans corrupting the world. If the person is not vegan, things get interesting.

If the person i'm going on this hypothetical first date with is a vegetarian, then i'll try to encourage them to go vegan and if they do, it's all good, if they don't then as things start to get serious i'll talk with them and level about my desire for a vegan household and if they are willing to comply (order non-vegan food at restaurants and keep it out of the house/ raise the kids vegan) then the relationship will progress if not...bye bye, it was nice while it lasted you cheese addicted little something or other.

if the person is an omnivore it works the same way, because I couldn't be with someone for a long time if they could kill or condone / support the killing of sentient beings. Life is too precious to me to spend it with people who throw it away for the sake of taste.

But what about love? someone reading has got to be thinking that right now. well, love could lead me to compromise ( allow him to keep non-vegan items in a small section of the refrigerator) , but love is an unpredictable variable. i like to think that love involves sharing values on some level, and that my expression of those shared values as veganism is something that the man i end up with will share. it takes more than love to build a lasting bond with another person. Besides...

Asking me if i could love a speciesist is like asking you if you could love a white supremacist or a sexist or a racist. Could you love and marry someone who you didn't think was ethical or morally sound in their actions towards others?

to wind this up, let me say that I know the term vegansexual is usually purely centered on sexual relations, but in this post I've opted to extend it to refer to long term relationships and marriage, because thats where I thought it most relevant to me ( I'm one of those classy chicks who need a ring before i let a guy go there), hope I haven't confused anyone with the term stretching.

thats all for now,
comment so I wont forget why I do this, ( or even so I'll know that you think I should do it better),
yours till I'm not anymore,
Plant_Murder

What's all this business about vegansexuals?

Vegansexuals is a term coined by Dr. Annie Potts of the New Zealand Centre for Animal and Human Studies to describe those vegans who are repulsed by the idea of engaging in sexual activity with non-vegans. Since the study that prompted the term hit mainstream presses, all sorts of talking heads have jumped on the bandwagon of stupid. Google "vegansexual" to see what I mean.

Anyway, some vegans do not like being with non-vegans, because of taste, not wanting to kiss someone who has put something in their mouth that you find repulsive, and ethical reasons. People in general tend to be turned off by other people who do things they find morally reprehensible. It only makes sense. For the non-vegans out there, would you be attracted to someone who you found out likes to drown puppies in his/her spare time? It's the same sort of situation; eating meat just happens to be more socially acceptable.

Also, not all vegans are fortunate enough to be with other vegans. Some are married to vegetarians or omnivores, and they find ways to work it out. The media may talk about "vegansexuals" as a new movement or a new tactic for the "vegan movement," but it's garbage. While I'd never have sex with someone who wasn't vegan, I would never call myself something as stupid as vegansexual, nor would I pressure others into breaking up or not having sex if one of them is vegan and the other is not.

To sum up, vegansexual is just another way the media makes veganism look ridiculous.